The 7th House is the realm of marriage. Ruled by Venus and the sign Libra, the 7th describes your first marriage partner. It does not describe your lovers or sex buddies or flings (those are ruled by your 5th House) or any other hanky-panky you might had, including co-habitation. The 7th House is dead serious. It is soooo serious, you need to sign a legal contract binded by law, and that is why any relationship that requires you to sign a contract falls under the 7th Libra realm.... Note that Libra is represented by a pair of Scales.... scales of justice. The same scales that sits outside the court of law, with the goddess Nemesis weighting your faults... so yes, Libra is a very fair sign. The 7th House is also fair, that is why it prefers equal partnerships in the eyes of law. It wants husband and wife to share their duties and responsibilities towards each other. It is about commitment.
So how do you judge a good 7th House? How good or bad it is depends on the planets sitting in it and the planetary aspects they made. Chief to all these, is the 7th house ruler, or Descendant (DC) ruler. If a divorce, for example, is going to happen in future, the DC ruler is able to accurately predict using prognostic techniques. However, before examining the compatibility chart between 2 souls in a marriage, we need to ask you a critical question: Are you the marrying type? Are you suited to married life, or are you better alone? Astrology says some people are not built for marriage, while others thrive in it. Each individual has a different capacity for love, and they may not be able to give or receive love freely. To know this, always refer to the individual natal chart...
To ascertain if one is meant for marriage, and has a capacity for married life, there are a few conditions to be avoided in the natal chart. I present 3 of the most notorious ones...
Moon opposing or squaring Sun
When the Moon either squares or opposes the Sun, this person has a character unsuited for marriage. The individual has a severe identity crisis within himself / herself....there is a fierce inner conflict that cannot be resolved. This identity crisis has to do with gender identity confusion that is rooted in parental disharmony since childhood. Both mother and father are perceived to be totally separate units, not united at all. As a result, the individual cannot reconcile the male and female gender roles. I notice people with the Sun and Moon in hard aspects often struggle with traditional gender roles, and often behave in a way that do not reflect their inner reality. Their external image will always contradict their internal self-image. In other words, they are a walking bag of contradictions. Caught in a perpetual inner battle with themselves, they have a limited capacity for receiving and giving love. Marriage often fails, as they are often unaware of their own contradictions, and tend to have a stubborn character unwilling to change for others.
Ascendant opposing or squaring its own ruler
When the Ascendant (AC) is in hard aspects to its own ruling planet, this person may come across as too scary or too aggressive for others. He has an overwhelmingly strong appearance that puts people off immediately. Not many people can handle their killer "aura" or presence in the room, which provokes an instant gut reaction. Since the AC rules your physical appearance, the individual often comes into conflict with others due to their appearance. The message that is conveyed from their body language is very different from their true characters. Unfortunately, such a person is usually extremely stubborn, and does not get along too well with others who are not like-minded. As such, their presence can be seen as provocative. Marriages do not fare well. It is not advisable to marry in general. In the example above, Aries AC is opposing its own ruler, Mars.
Uranus sitting in the 7th / Descendant cusp
When Uranus is in the 7th House (DC), this is the classic divorce aspect in astrology textbooks. To be avoided at all costs. As the planet of separation, Uranus rules physical distance and will always create a distance between husband and wife. A couple cannot stay under the same roof for long. They must separate, either through traveling, or busy work schedule. I have seen a lot of long-distance marriages and perpetually absent spouses with this aspect in my clients' charts. The spouse will create excuses not to be at home. Uranus is also very selfish, self-centered and willful. The individual will never bend over to cater to anyone, and they will NEVER change. Not in a million years. The individual can never really enter into a proper partnership, since they value their personal space and individualism too much to sacrifice it for another person. The concept of partnership does not exist for them. Forget it. You will never be a unit together. There is only "I" and "you" who happen to live together. After marriage, "I" will continue my own activities, while "you" will do your own thingy. In the above example, Uranus is not only sitting in DC, it is also opposing the AC and Moon, which makes it doubly worse... An honest astrologer will never recommend marriage in this situation.
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