Mars-Saturn: Repressed Anger

Mars in hard aspects to Saturn in a man's natal chart shows that he has repressed anger issues. Often, his desires are frustrated in some ways and this manifests as anger. Outwardly, he may appear calm and controlled but inwardly, he is seething with rage. This is a man who struggles throughout his life because he always finds that his efforts are often met with obstacles and resistance from others. He is always fighting, fighting a battle against the rest of the world. As a result of bitterness in his heart, he becomes a bit of a bully, constantly picking on others, needling them, criticising others or challenging them. They become very hard on themselves and others. They are noted for their ability to work very hard and slave around the clock patiently in order to produce work of the highest quality. They are cruel taskmasters.

As a child, the Mars-Saturn man suffered excessive punishment and discipline at the hands of a parental figure, most likely the father (in a woman's chart, it's usually her mother). Due to the cruelty he endured in the hands of his father, he will develop animosity towards authority figures throughout his entire life. He will go into conflict with bosses or managers or people in charge. He works better alone and is often gifted with great entrepreneurship and business skills. Because Saturn is constantly testing them, beating them up and putting obstacles in their path, some of them eventually gave up on life. I do feel with this position, one either grow overwhelmingly strong to overcome Saturn or they totally give up trying as Saturn is crushing their will to live. 

So how does the cruel taskmaster perform in bed? They might be met with sexual rejection, frustration or even sexual inhibition in the early part of their lives. They can't express what they want easily. They may be late bloomers. The effect is almost similar to a very young Capricorn - sexually repressed, nervous, insecure and getting their panties all twisted up in knots when it comes to expressing their sexuality. They have a fear of rejection when it comes to relationship, and a stronger need to be in control. This eventually leads them to become domineering in their relationships.

Mars-Pluto: Ruthless Love

Mars in hard aspect to Pluto is arguably the most hardcore of all when it comes to intimacy. They have a raw, animalistic drive towards coitus. They tend to overwhelm their partners and completely drain them in bed. Beware of getting involved with one unless you know your body can keep out with their level of energy. You ain't hardcore until you have experienced a Mars-Pluto. They are very, very demanding behind closed doors. Their attitude towards sex is also quite scary  - they need to experience it in all its extremities - plunging to the deepest level of hell with pain and rising to the highest level of heaven with ecstasy. Sex is their drug, their obsession, their catharsis.

However, these people are very secretive. They tend to do things quietly, pulling the strings behind the scene so that everything falls into place in such a subtle way that you'll never even suspect they are controlling everything. In fact, they are so private about their intimate world that you'll never know anything about them unless they tell you. They have an innate need for control. They do things a quiet, subtle way. These are traits acquired from childhood, as most of them grow up facing extreme situations - violent or abusive circumstances - and as such, they are well-equipped to deal with a lot of bullshit and adversity in life. In times of hardship, they rise to the occasion where others might fall.  

They are also capable of being quite ruthless when the situation needs it. Most books never mention this - but I observe Mars-Pluto as having outstanding leadership skills exactly because they are capable of being completely kind when necessary, and totally cruel when required. A good leader needs to be extremely compassionate and protective towards the weak, and absolutely merciless towards their enemies. In this sense, the Mars-Pluto excels in this area unlike other signs. People also tend to be instantly pulled towards their charisma or feel instant repulsion / disgust towards them. You will either love or hate them, no in between.

Mercury-Jupiter: Lack of Desire

Part of the reason I keep a blog is to discuss rare topics that are hardly-mentioned by other books and websites. And one of the least-understood topics in astrology is the lack of libido or low sex drive. While we definitely know that Mars aspect to Venus, Uranus and Pluto increases the libido of a man significantly, we have not talked about men who don't seem to be very excited by sex at all. What makes a man appear impotent? What causes a low sex drive in men?

Lack of libido can be seen from a tight Mercury conjunction Jupiter in a natal chart. A less than 5 degrees orb conjunction between these two planets indicates a man who is more interested in mental or spiritual activities than actual physical sex itself. He prefers scholarly pursuits to lusting after women. As a result, he doesn't actively seek out girlfriends or have interest in marriage. Yes, this is the original "herbivore man", a Japanese slang for passive men who sit around with little interest in women. Like all herbivore males, these folks are gentle, kind and non-assertive. They conceive of love as something philosophical, higher than flesh, and not at all erotic. 

This does not, however, means that the man does not have carnal desires at all. Rather, it means he has lower than average needs and does not act on them as frequently as other guys do. These are straight guys who don't chase women, hunters who don't hunt, fishermen who don't fish, predators who sit around waiting to be preyed. Gifted with higher-than-average intelligence, these men prefer to have a nice conversation over a cup of coffee or go to the nearest museum with the girl of his dreams, and not do the naughty. However, there are exceptions. The exception is if he has a strong Mars in his chart to mitigate this effect. Unless a man's Mars is very prominent in the chart, he will not be able to enjoy a normal sex drive with a Mercury-Jupiter conjunction.  

Mars-Venus: Passionate Love Affairs

Mars squaring or opposing Venus will create passionate, grand love affairs. These people love like there is no tomorrow, and make love like it's an epic Harlequin novel. They embark on whirlwind romance, erotic flings and sizzling hot affairs that can be so explosive in nature that it might not last long. The movie "Last Tango in Paris" (1972) pretty much capture the type of love that could be symbolized by this aspect. Mars-Venus aspects are notorious for increasing good looks and physical allure of the individual. There is a forthright and provocative energy projected by the man. He is a lover, first and foremost, and will always be a lover. 

Mars-Venus has bad timing, however. Their lovers can blow hot and cold, which gives an "on and off" quality to the relationship. When they are bursting with passion, their partners can be busy or uninterested. When their partners are ready to love them, they can be preoccupied or out of town. The bad timing can be very frustrating. Affairs may begin suddenly and end just as suddenly. 

Mars-Venus men may come on as too strong to certain people, who may be taken unprepared. He may come across as intense, although the other party is not keen. The relationship of such a man with his partner can be very volatile, full of lovebites and nailscraping against skin while he dodges frying pans and kitchen sinks. There can be heated arguments and violent accusations that may very well end up with a passionate session in bed. 

Mars-Neptune: Sexy But Confused

                                           

Mars afflicting Neptune produces an irresistibly sexy man (or woman). The individual is attractive and charismatic even without him knowing it. He will embody the masculine ideal that is imagined by all women. The keyword here is "imagine", for Neptune rules imaginations of all sorts. 10 pairs of eyes gazing at the Mars-Neptune man will imagine their fantasies all fulfilled by him, for the man is a very clever actor, adept at projecting your fantasies unto himself. He will instinctively know what you desire, and dress in a certain way or act in a certain manner that will appeal to your fantasy. He taps into your desires unconsciously, but does it without any real intention. He is just a tease.

                                                                        

But he is not teasing you for fun. He doesn't want sex. He doesn't even know what he wants. Which brings me to my next point.... Mars-Neptune men are very, very confused people. They are so confused that they spend so much time thinking about what they really want in bed. So they masturbate a lot, and by a lot, I mean A LOT.  This aspect shows a compulsive masturbator. They watch tonnes of porn and try all sorts of sexual experimentations but they just don't feel satisfied. They may try alcohol, toys and stimulants but still don't feel satisfied. Sometimes they wonder if they are gay or bisexual. Sometimes they wonder if they're into BDSM. Sometimes... The list goes on and on.

Because they are so confused and wishy-washy, they can be easily led into all sorts of nasty and kinky situations. They are gullible and easily deceived. Despite being so sexy, they have no idea what to do with their own sexiness. So they end up seducing people endlessly, without any intentions or even knowledge that they are doing it. This aspect is quite challenging for men, who will often feel sexual insecurities but try to hide it under a veneer of macho-ness. They pretend to be macho by hitting the gym and doing karate, hunting, fishing or other "manly" activities to cover up insecurities.

Mars-Uranus: Need for Speed

                                                     What every Mars-Uranus man wants

Mars in negative aspect to Uranus is an adrenaline junkie. It creates a need for crude sexual excitement. The libido is experienced like a surge of electricity - temporary blasts of erotic high which is very powerful then followed by a complete lack of desire. This aspect is most often seen in speed racers, extreme sports athletes and gym rats. Put simply, these guys have a need for speed. They need to experience the thrill of the chase, the high the adrenaline gives them every once in a while.

                                                              High risk, high adrenaline

This need for crude thrills and excitement may lead them into having casual hook-ups and one night stands with women. They like fast cars, fast women. Mars-Uranus folks is the "anything goes" type at the "right time and right place." They really know how to have fun. These are the people you want to invite to parties. However, due to the very temporal nature of feelings for these men, they get bored real fast with the same thing and move on to something fresher and more challenging. They can't stand dull monotonous routine.

                                                    Sadly, they do not all have great bodies      

On the positive side, Mars-Uranus increases manliness and boosts a guy's macho image. He will be confident, outgoing, decisive and has good leadership skills. Most textbooks observe that the Mars-Uranus men are gifted with precise technical skills that makes them great engineers - electronic engineers, mechanical engineers, software engineers, mechanics, architects, etc. His temper will also be lightning fast and violent, but subsides as quickly as his libido. 

Would I recommend this partner to anyone? The answer is "yes" if you're an outgoing sassy girl who knows how to rock the gym but the answer is "no" if you're the stay-at-home wifey type of girl who expects things to remain stable. Ultimately, there will be a right partner for every soul in this lifetime. The key is to have faith and continue searching for the one destined for you.

Venus-Moon: Virgin-Whore Dichotomy

Madonna                     VS                        Whore   

A man with his Moon opposing Venus views women in an extreme polarity / binary. In his eyes, a woman is either a virgin or a whore, no in-between. Although he can only love a pure woman, he will only enjoy sex with a slut. While he knows he needs to marry an innocent virgin, he really wants a promiscuous hussy to rock his bed. Needless to say, this is a very difficult aspect to tackle for a man. He will always be confused between what he needs and wants, because he desires really bad women with no self-respect, but at the same time he can only love a chaste woman with high morality.

Wife                             VS                         Mistress

So how does a man solve this problem? How can he ever look at his wife with desire and stop thinking of sluts? There are basically 3 solutions to this dilemma: 

1. Marry a bride for procreation, but keep a mistress for recreation, 

2. Marry a complicated woman who embodies both characteristics of purity and kinkiness, 

3. Don't marry at all, remain a bachelor for life since marriage will never satisfy him carnally. 

Let me be honest and just say that most men choose option 1 and 3. There are very few who actually go for option 3 since they are not lucky enough to find a woman who can embody both goddess and succubus traits.

I do not need to tell you this can be an unfaithful aspect in a natal chart. Some extramarital affairs are caused by this Venus-Moon affliction in a man's chart. My advice to women is to be careful and think twice before considering such men for long-term relationships or marriage unless they are content being reduced to either Madonna or Whore. The man himself often does not realize the impossible expectations that he has about the opposite sex, making him inherently sexist.